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Dear IWAB Readers,
Welcome to Heart 2 Heart on influence ‘International Desk’, I am Aquinas. Recently, I had to study a few details from the scripture and relate with some facts and realities on ‘Why Marriages Fail’ especially amongst Christians. Well that study and research is still on and will hit this platform in the near future. However, along the path of my exercise, I stumbled upon some incredible and insightful thoughts on the same subject. It blessed me beyond measure. I want this to be a peep into what is coming ahead. This was written by a very thorough and intelligent Young Nigerian Author “Gabriel Jacob”. He is a Food Scientist and Technologist, a health instructor, a Lecturer at Bauchi Polytechnic, Nigeria and a seasoned Author of the book “Nature is Lifeguides to true health and happiness. For Public speaking,facilitation and consultancy with Gabriel, you can reach us here or call IWAB hotlines below.
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Writer: Gabriel Jacob


I needed to use the scissors this morning & as I finished with it. I looked at it carefully & I saw that, the scissors models an ideal couple. Let’s see some lessons every couple should learn from the scissors so that we can become better couples & build enviable homes.
The scissors is always in pairs& that’s where its usefulness is. Once you see one part& the other part is not there, it is useless no matter how beautiful it is. The effectiveness of every marriage is lost when couples are not together. Separation & divorce destroy the effectiveness& usefulness of every marriage. Remember, ‘united we stand, divided we fall’. Separation is not only when you separate physically & you are no longer living together. There are many couples who are together under the same roof but are spiritually, emotionally, sexually, financially, socially, etc separated. Are you sure you& your spouse are not separated in one of these ways?

The togetherness of scissors is not automatic. There is a small bolt or pin that fixed the scissors together in the middle. In the same vein, if couples must be bounded together like this scissors, there must be ‘bolts’ that must fix & wed them together that will make them inseparable. Some of the ‘bolts’ are √The presence of God √ openness& trust √ Unity √ Healthy& joyful sex life √ family vision √ good family finance √ hot family altar, etc. I tried separating this scissors this morning, but the pin was so deep & tight into it that it was not easy for me to separate them.

Lesson 3:
The scissors is useless except someone holds it. Couples can’t be effective except they allow God to hold them and use them to achieve their marital destiny. No family is really useless. It is either you are positively useful& that happens when it is God holding the two of you. You will be negatively useful when it is the devil holding the two of you. The devil can hold the two of you and use you to destroy each other,and destroy the future of your children & even destroy your eternity. Ask yourself as couples. Who is holding us& holding our family?

Lesson 4:
Each pair of the scissors has a sharp part& a dull part. The face is sharp while the back is dull. In the same vein, each couple has his/ her area of strengths & weaknesses. Your spouse is not empty. Though you might see the ‘dull part’ of your spouse, but if you want your marriage to accomplish its purpose; you must recognise the ‘sharp part’ of your spouse. You also must display your ‘sharp part’ ( strengths). Don’t just display your ‘dull part’. That destroys marriage fast!.

Lesson 5:
Synergy in working: The two pairs must come together before it can cut whatever you want to use it to cut. Each pair will bring its sharpness& join it with the sharpness of the other pair& cutting will be done easily& smoothly. In like manner, synergy is the energy of any family. All these, my money, my car,my own, my thing, me, mine, myself syndromes will sap away the energy of your marriage. Synergize your resources, money, connection, visions as couples so as to give energy to your marriage to advance it to the next level. ‘Iness’ is the mother of illness of marriage while ‘WEness’ is the mother of wellness of every marriage. You want energy for your marriage?, then go for synergy. Only ‘SCISSORS COUPLES’ are SERIOUS COUPLES. You can share to bless a family. The joy of your family is my priority.


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Welcome to Hard Talk on influence. Let’s talk heart to heart as I share real life issues of real people. You will be inspired, challenged and lifted. I am Aquinas as always. Follow me!



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                           …how choices and decisions affect our future!

Recently, I found myself making a connecting appointment within the City at a late night hour. I had boarded a City shuttle Bus and the usual thing with this medium of land movement particularly in a metropolitan city such as mine is “Stopping at different junctions and bus stops to either pick passengers or have onboard commuters disembark”.

Few moment on the journey, the driver pulled over by the side to let the norm take its course and suddenly a man popped into the vehicle as a passenger and in the instance, a woman in an attire that seemed like that which can only be used doing home chores, came by the bus and beckoned on another passenger to let her have her way in. Whilst that negotiation went on, the man who hopped in began to yell at this supposed above 45 years old woman. They were husband and wife. Eventually every other person inside withdrew, letting them resolve their family matter. However, the condition worsened as we continued the journey with two supposedly former love birds punch themselves with vocal blows over differences which seemed like a mystery to all particularly as they never gave room for third part intervention, even though they infringed on our right of peace which our pay time on the journey afforded us.

Finally, as we approached the last bus stop, and I watched this supposed “Once In Love” couple disgrace themselves in a very destructive manner, my heart ached in pain and I was torn apart between sympathy and anger with too many questions bombarding my inner man. Then I thought “Who and Where are the parents who gave this people’s hand in marriage, How did they arrive Here, Have they actually come to a point of irreconcilable difference, what kind of choice and decision did they make, Did they embark on this same journey prior to ‘I Do’ and What Future did they plan or prepare for”. In life, We must be able to See the FUTURE of our CHOICES and DECISIONS to be able to take charge of circumstances when things fall apart.

The journey of destiny must not be embarked upon to gratify pity, compensate emotions or trusted into the life that has another mission. What would speed mean on lonely express when you are on the wrong lane. What would location contribute when you have lost your compass. How can a marriage built to fail succeed. How could destiny rated strangers become neighbours how much more companions. What did this couple in the bus do that never helped them miss the mess looming their lives turning them into a disjointed spectacles and tragedy of bliss.

Listen, don’t make a choice or take a decision that you couldn’t envision the end before taking the attendant steps. What you do outside after all, is a mirror into the closed doors. Marriage is beautiful, relationship is awesome, but don’t turn yours into a sour story. What kind of story does your presence or action inspire when your library of life is unveiled, and what kind of water come out when your rock which is your character is struck. Before that soup gets soured, don’t miss the sign.

Attention to untreated hurts, unforgiven offences, unspoken tears and uncelebrated cheers can save a lifetime damage. Don’t be like the couple in this story, there is more to gain than count losses. God is in that boat, don’t quit, maybe you need to mend the net to understand the bleeding. Receive strength today to talk it over and watch things work out for you. Just as abuse must not and can not be endured forever, Divorce is not an ideal end of the journey but a new season for episodes of misery with no beautiful end. So what are you going to do. I am not saying the obvious, but If only you could see Jesus in your eyes, and drop the unheard hurts, unexplained trauma and broken hearts, heaven will arise again. Take charge of your will, take ownership of your future!…God bless you!

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Dear IWAB Readers,
Welcome to The Future Now on influence, I am Paul Hillary. From the City of Liberty statue here in USA, I bring you insight into what is happening to the world now as the bible prophecy foretold. Whilst the world continue to purse mirage in guise of solution to security and economic problem, what is paramount is that there is no time left anymore! In this timely and riveting episode of TFN, join me as I share with you the future of the world that is already a present our reality according to ED HINDSON



In many ways, the current catastrophe is but a microcosm of the real End Time disasters that are predicted in Scripture. Jesus did, in fact, warn that the days before His Second Coming would be “as the days of Noah” when the “flood came, and took them all away” (Matthew 24:37-39). Every act of God’s judgment is an act of mercy, warning us of even greater judgment to come.

The Bible predicts at least seven future events that are destined to shake the world in the “last days.”

1. Millions Missing

One of the most incredible prophecies of the Bible is the prediction of the Rapture of the Church ( I Thess. 4:13-17). In this passage, the Apostle Paul predicts that one day the “dead in Christ” will be resurrected and “we which are alive” will be raptured (Greek, harpazo) into the clouds to meet the Lord in the air. This reunion of believers is called the “blessed hope” of the Church (Titus 2:13).

The Rapture is a totally different event from the return of Christ to judge the world and set up His kingdom on earth. At the Rapture, millions of born-again believers will be “caught up” into the air to meet the Lord who is coming to claim His Bride and take her home to the Father’s house in heaven (John 14:1-4). In the Return, the Bride comes back from heaven with Christ at Armageddon to defeat the Antichrist and initiate the kingdom of Christ on earth for 1,000 years (Rev. 19-20).

2. USA Out/New Power In

One thing we must always bear in mind is that the Rapture changes everything! If millions of believers were suddenly snatched away to glory, the United States, especially, would be thrown into economic, social, political and spiritual chaos. Assuming that a significant percentage of Americans are true believers, their sudden absence would leave the USA a second-rate power, literally overnight. What happened with Katrina would pale into a distant memory in light of a much greater national crisis.

Biblical prophecies indicate that the major player in the end times scenario will be Europe (cf. Daniel 9). The emergence of the European Union has galvanized more than 350 million people into a political and economic powerhouse that is destined to fill the global power vacuum after the Rapture. This will inevitably lead to a shift in international policies toward Israel in the last days.

3. World Peace Promised

The Bible predicts the rise of a global dictator who will promise to bring peace to the world during the troubling days after the Rapture. II Thess. 2:1-12 indicates that the wicked one cannot come on the scene until after the removal of the Restrainer. A careful reading of this passage indicates that the Antichrist will rise to power after the Rapture of the Church.

The Book of Revelation calls this world ruler the “Beast” (Rev.13:1-10). It describes him controlling a global economy, a world government and a world religion in which he claims to be divine and insists that he be worshipped as God. It also portrays a “false prophet” who assists the Beast in his global deception and world rule (Rev. 13:11-18). However, in the end, the Antichrist’s promise of peace will culminate in plunging the world into the most terrible wars the planet has ever known.

4. Two Dead Men Walking

Revelation 11:3-12 predicts the appearance of “two witnesses” who will proclaim the message of Jesus Christ in Jerusalem in the days following the Rapture. Their clear message will be accompanied by miraculous signs that indicate their functions will be like that of Moses (plagues) and Elijah (fire from heaven). These are also the two witnesses that appeared with Jesus on the mount of transfiguration (Matt. 17:1-3).

The Antichrist will suddenly turn against these two men, kill them and leave their dead bodies in the streets of Jerusalem for public display. But after three and a half days, they will be miraculously resurrected and raptured into heaven (Rev. 11:11-12). This dramatic event will be witnessed by the whole world, presumably on satellite television. It will serve as a final warning to those who have rejected the Gospel and been left behind during the Great Tribulation.

5. Jewish Temple Rebuilt

The first Temple in Jerusalem was built by King Solomon. It was destroyed in 586 B.C. by the Babylonians. The second Temple was built by Zerubbabel in 515 B.C. It was later remodeled by King Herod and destroyed by the Romans in A.D. 70. Today, there is no Jewish temple on the sacred Temple Mount. Instead, the Moslem shrine, the Dome of the Rock, has sat on the Temple Mount for more than 1,300 years, since A.D. 691.

Nevertheless, the Bible predicts that the Antichrist (“man of sin”) will enter the Jewish temple in the last days and insist that he be worshipped as God (II Thess. 2:3-4). This prophecy presupposes the existence of another Jewish temple in the future. Since the Dome of the Rock now sits on the previous site of the Temple, this would seem to predict the eventual destruction of the Dome of the Rock and the rebuilding of the Jewish temple in its place, perhaps under the auspices and protection of the Antichrist himself.

6. Holocaust Eclipsed

One of the most serious biblical prophecies points to the invasion of Jerusalem in the biblical last days. While Israel is dwelling securely, she will suddenly be invaded by hordes of old Gentile nations. Both the Old Testament (Ezekiel 38-39; Joel 2:1-11; Zechariah 14:1-3) and the New Testament (Matt. 24:15-28; Rev. 16:1-21) predict an assault on Jerusalem in the end times.

The prophet Daniel predicts the coming world ruler will break his treaty agreement with Israel, desecrate the Temple and attack the city of Jerusalem (Daniel 9:26-27). John the Revelator pictures Jerusalem falling (Rev.11:13) and the remnant fleeing into the wilderness (Rev.12:13-17). Jesus warned that unless those days were shortened, no one would survive (Matt. 24:21-22). But unlike the destruction of Jerusalem in A.D. 70, this time God will intervene to deliver His people.

7. God Comes to Earth

The great climax of biblical prophecy is the Triumphal Return of Jesus Christ described in Rev. 19:11-16. He returns from heaven to earth to win the Battle of Armageddon (Rev. 16:16), defeat the Beast and the False Prophet and cast Satan into the abyss for 1,000 years (Rev. 19:19-20:3). Only His return will bring peace to the planet and an end to human hostilities. In the Person of Jesus Christ, the Prince of Peace, God comes to earth to reign and rule in peace and righteousness. This will be an unprecedented time of blessing and prosperity only to be exceeded by eternity itself when all the saints of God dwell together in the New Jerusalem (Rev. 21-22).

The final prophecies of the Revelation end with an invitation. Jesus speaks one last time, urging us to “testify … these things in the churches” (Rev. 22:16). Then the Revelation adds: “And the Spirit and the bride say, Come. And let him that hears say, Come. And let him that is athirst, come. And whosoever will, let him take of the water of life freely” (Rev.22:17). Prophecy is not written to frighten us, but to invite us to come to Christ while there is still time. You and I have an invitation to dine with the King. But we must decide to accept His invitation before it’s too late (Rev. 3:20).

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Dear IWAB Readers,
Welcome to a beautiful day. It is Faith Living on influence. Today by the Spirit, I bring you this message. It is timely and riveting and my prayer is that you will find hope, strength and grace that will cause a change in your life as you read this. Enjoy the read!

                             …God got another plan!
God said to the children of Israel: I have set before you this day death and life but I would that you choose life. One of the greatest liberality and generosity of God to mankind is the allowance for will power. As much as this precious gift is aimed at blessing, yet it could destroy but only the one who abuses the purpose thereof.

God has a desire for all men (block gender) to worship him and fulfill his eternal purpose. Yet he thinks better of his kids. As much as this subsists, there are elements that strive hard and harder to sabotage this plan. There are good and bad habits. Dirty Habits are formed in the process of addiction but it begins with a little lust, influence and idolatry. There are folks who have been overtaken by alcohol, drugs, women, sex and other kinds of excessive elements, yet they wonder why their lives are in shamble, drowned and headed on destiny wreck and pathological jeopardy.

You were made for a glorious future with a beautiful destiny but you have to understand that such are not as more important as you fulfilling that purpose for being. That slowly growing fascinations and craving for make-up, clothes, clubbing, sex, sniffing and what have you is a snare. Watch it otherwise it will grow out of your force field and become a terror. Don’t give room to the devil to get in the way and mess up your life.

Destiny and purpose are expensive and no currency in the world can afford it. If God gave it to you without any condition, then it is a gift you must guard with your life. Those things you do in your closets that are already forming clouds of secrecy, watch them. They are highways to early grave. The puzzling fact about dirty habits is that if you don’t deal with them, they will surely deal with you. No matter how smart you play or how deep you shave off their prints, one day, they may burst out and disgrace you. Don’t suppress it but deal with it because the two actions are different.

A true celebrity is not the beauty queens of this world or the popular figures that grace the TV screens and billboards. A true celebrity is the one who leads a fulfilling life of purpose. And true purpose is only in Christ. Stop that madness and don’t get killed by that habit. God loves you, he is got another plan for you and he needs you here to do his work and manifest his glory to the whole world. Embrace Jesus today and let him help you deal with that dirty habit that you have struggled with this long.

My prayer for you today is that you will experience the glory of God even as you read this and his mighty power rest upon you in abundance. Much more, the revelation of his personality becomes ever real to you now and by his Spirit you are strengthened to live above that dirty habit. Now in the Name of Jesus I command that devil in your life to leave now with his demons. You are free in Jesus name. Write me and let’s celebrate your victory. I love you, God bless you!

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Welcome to Learning and Growing on Influence. Follow me as I share this subject from my parchments. Enjoy!

All over the world, there are no nations without some treasures and no people without some abilities. What makes the difference is insight and in-search.

Again and again, I have realized that the reason for the cry is ideally not the cause of the tears. The reason for eating is ideally not because of hunger. Then what is the matter Mr. Speaker? Ooh! There is dignity in self discovery and confidence in self development. Social deprivation, classification, hunger, illiteracy, poverty, looting, etc are major sociological scenes and geographical definitions around the world.

The big question is; are there surplus and lack anywhere?  Emphatic yes! The cause of sickness and the reason are separated by BE; paradox you say! The morpheme BE is akin to your being, your personality or who you are! That means it is not about the cause but about you! Whilst it is appreciated; the circumstances preceding your birth, but the responsibility for your demise is totally unacceptable.

Life may knock you down but must you fall? However, if you fall, must you remain there? Hospitals exist not because of treatment but because of the value for life. Hey! did you know that the business you do is not as important as the value of the business? What do you live for; value or routine? Jesus said; the poor you will always have with you. What a profound statement! The reason for being poor is not because of poverty. The poor exist because undeveloped abilities abound in the mind. Look around the world and see the wonders of God’s manifold creations, the beauty that lay fallow and the wealth that glitter in treasure stones. But why the magnitude of hunger, lack and impoverishment? Hosea 4:6.

In times of adversities according to ancient landmarks, men of valor and strength are put on the frontline to shield and deliver their kingdoms and people from the brunt and terrors thereof. This is because of the mass confidence in their built abilities. Wisdom, knowledge, understanding and vision are the cardinal principles that put through in life; anyone who desires to live a life of perpetual success and lasting influence. A nation’s wealth or development is not ideally measured by its’ GDP (gross domestic product) but its’ GMA (gross mental accent).

The richest of all nations and the finest of all kingdoms still house the poor because poverty is not a function of economy but a proof of personality. There are beggars in the Palace, did you know that? That’s what Jesus meant when he said; the poor you will always have with you! You live in a mansion yet have no room, ride in the best cars yet no driving permit, walk on the highways of well manicured lanes and aesthetic landscapes, yet  without a dream and visit the finest mall having no exchange power; you are truly a beggar in the palace. You can’t blame anybody for this because the best of you can only come from you.

Yes provision is your expectation but what about response? We cry so much about what we don’t have, run campaigns even with hashtag #giveusourright, but what about what we have to which we did nothing with?

When I see or hear of beggars on the street of Somalia, Uganda, Liberia, India, etc, I don’t cry because there are also beggars in London, America and Nigeria.

BEGARS IN THE PALACE exist where and when lack, hunger, deprivations, poverty, etc are dignified on the face board of self-pity pageant through ignorance on rampage.

The cure for this aching parody is learning and growing, and the true learning begins with hearing and studying the teachings of God’s word. Until this is done, the building of sky scrapers, low cost houses and running of alleviation schemes will only contribute to more economic loses. Because a built mind is stronger than the tower of barbel and relief materials!

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a signature of excellence

“Oh I can’t understand how I worked so hard all day and nightlong to get this report compiled only to get a tongue lashing remarks from my boss”…”I wash the clothes, shepherds the children, keep the home and do all the dirty chores, yet all I get from you is discredit, blame and displeasure”. These and many more are regular and conventional exclamatory coinages you could hear every day at home, offices, church, etc relating to one issue or another as expressions of efforts injected into a given task performed or a delegated assignment carried out. Over the years, I have evaluated this scenario to comprehend the undertone and here is my finding: in life, no one gets credit for “TRYING”. The existence of life is time bound and the fulfillment of the obligatory responsibility of its’ players (mankind and others) has a timeline. Therefore, what we see is a fast and furious world with high tech system that gives no room for explanations of failure (excuse) nor accommodates reasons for non-performance. Did you know that there are no medals and accolades for aiming at the target anywhere, neither is there hall of fame for attempts. The order is get the job done, hit the target, and bring home the trophy! But why? After all my efforts? My dear, efforts is unsafe for a world with no mercy seat from time and a system with fast and furious ideology. Is not time to agonize or promote campaign for hate awareness. What you have not come to term with is this: action rules the world and result gets the job done. No one gets celebrated for trying because failures also try. The difference between effort and result is SUCCESS! He loves you and she adores you though! But your effort messed the game. Their loyalty remains extinct until your result shows up; make peace with this to learn the rules of the game. Result has the answer but effort gives explanation. Get the job done; it is “Result, Not Effort”!
Aquinas Cosmas

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